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The following three inspirations were adapted from “A Daily Dose of Happiness”, and they represent three key ways to increase our happiness.

1. Forgiving For Happiness

We like to think we are better than our friends below us in the food chain, such as the octopus and the snail.  After all, we have love.  We feel happiness.  We have empathy.  We have a conscience.  We can reason.

We can also hold onto grudges.

Grudges are, in fact, prickly little creatures that worm their way into our hearts.  Holding onto them is a self-defeating exercise.

Fortunately, forgiveness is also uniquely human.  Forgiveness cleanses the spirit.  Forgiveness let’s us get on with enjoying our lives instead of being preoccupied with someone else’s.  Forgiveness opens the door to happiness.

2. Supporting For Happiness
When things seem to be very bleak, it does not take much to lift someone’s spirits.  Sometimes all it takes is to let somebody know they are not alone.

That is why it is so important to smile at people, especially if they look down.  And if you know what is weighing the person down, let them know they are not alone.  Don’t go burdening them with all your miseries, but let them know you have been there.

Guess what?  You will feel happiness for having helped them, too.

3. Accepting For Happiness
There is no such thing as happiness if you are not at peace with yourself.  Too many people just don’t know how to make peace with themselves.

Peace begins with acceptance.  Whether we agree with everything we do (like the environmentalist who sometimes throws out a recyclable container), it is important to accept what we do.

Do we always make the best choices?  No.  But they are the choices we make.

Do we always treat people with the most respect?  No.  But it is how we treat people.

Can we improve? Yes, and we should.  But that is a project for the future.  First we must accept who we are now, rather than condemning ourselves.  Then we can move to improve the person we will be tomorrow.  Both acceptance today and improvements tomorrow will increase our happiness.

Creating your path to success depends on walking on a firm foundation. Knowing WHAT you want is only the beginning. Visualizing what you want and repeating affirmations makes your intentions stronger. Yet, this is not enough. So what IS the secret to realizing your goals? Let’s walk the path together. As we walk the path step by step, I encourage you to write the answers to these questions:

Step 1: Where are you now? What are your strengths, resources, and areas of improvement?

Step 2: What do you want to achieve? What is important to you? Money? Relationships? Having fun? Creating a vibrant body? …Use your imagination to explore. List everything you want without editing.

Step 3: What do you REALLY want? What lights you up and gets you excited? What is your heart’s desire?

Step 4: Now explore the risks, obstacles, or challenges that could interfere with achieving these goals. Notice what is stopping you from having what you want now. This is the most powerful question to answer because it is how you sabotage yourself from success. By recognizing the challenges, obstacles or risks and addressing them in your Action Plan, you manage your productive tension to focus on your desired outcome.

What’s Stopping You?

Feelings of unworthiness?

Self-sabotaging mind talk?

Do you dress for success?

How is your love life? Do you regularly express your love to the significant relationships in your life?

Release negative people from your life

Release self pity – Focus on gratitude instead. Make list of what is good in your life.

Attitude – are you usually upbeat?

Health: attitude, energy, mental clarity, and overall well-being are all linked to good health. Health is supported by

Exercise: Pleasurable forms can include weight lifting, dance, belly dance, Tango, golf, tennis, jogging, walking, cycling, yoga, and many other forms.

Diet: Well balanced diet is best. Studies have shown that excessive protein creates health risks/issues.

Medical exams: Regular checkups help you know where you stand and how to get back on track if necessary.

Spiritual Life: Your spiritual life builds your foundation.

Complacency or “Golden Handcuffs” – When we get too comfortable, we can set ourselves up to fail. If you are at the top, keep your edge and passion by giving yourself new challenges.

Do you have the passion to win or achieve a goal?

Step 5: Select your favorite goals and write an affirmation for each following this format:

I have achieve specific goal stated in present tense by specific deadline.

State your goals in specific, measurable terms so you can recognize their achievement. Avoid the use of the words “try, not, don’t, can’t, shouldn’t…” The mind does not hear the “not” and cannot produce results with “try”. An example of an affirmation is “I achieve my monthly financial goal of $$$ easily by the 28th of every month.” Another example of an affirmation is, “This is my LUCKY day!”

Step 6: Imagine yourself already having your goals accomplished. What do you see? What do you hear? What do you feel? What do you smell? What do you taste? Let yourself BE there now!

Step 7: Create an Action Plan to achieve your desired results. Be specific about every step required. The goals need to be compelling to be achievable.

Step 8: Reinforce your goals daily. Create a vision map with YOU in the picture and place it where you can see it daily. Record your affirmations in your voice and listen to them daily. Repeat your affirmations morning and night. Focus on what you desire.

Step 9: Be Accountable. Find a coach who you will allow to hold you accountable in a supportive way. Ultimately, accountability is the key to success. A coach supports you by inspiring pride and self-discipline. For best results, the coach is someone who has no attachment to the outcome. The coach walks the path with you — but not for you.

Ultimately, your success depends on your ability to monitor and manage your level of productive tension.